Although the following quote from Sacred Marriage (p. 49) by Gary Thomas speaks from a husband’s perspective, it is equally relevant to us as children of God, especially the final lines: God’s heart is melted and he is most tender and gracious to us when he encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it. Pausing here today in the midst of the busy and breathing deep these words.
Consider the virtues I have recommended as necessary to a deep relation with your wife: patience, listening, humility, service, and faithful, tender love. I hope it is not heretical for me to claim that in his dealings with us, God acts in many ways like a woman.
Women are capable of and sometimes commit magnificent acts that manifest incredible power and awaken in us men a profound awe, if not fear and trembling. Yet when they love, they love quietly; they speak, as it were, in whispers, and we have to listen carefully, attentively, to hear their words of love and to know them.
Isn’t God also this way?
Doesn’t he intervene in most of our lives in whispers, which we miss if we fail to recollect ourselves and pay careful attention – if we do not constantly strive to hear those whispers of divine love? The virtues necessary in truly loving a woman and having that love returned – the virtues of listening, patience, humility, service, and faithful love – are the very virtues necessary for us to love God and to feel his love returned. As we cannot lord it over women if we are to know them and grow intimate with them, so we cannot lord it over God if we are to know him and grow intimate with him.
We cannot successfully demand the love of a woman or the love of God. We have to wait. And just a as woman’s heart is melted when she encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it, so God’s heart is melted and he is most tender and gracious to us when he encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it.
Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage, p. 49