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SplinteredPaddle02aWe met full sail as summer swelled

and  we ran free

beneath borealis skies,



September’s sweet caress

coaxed us to sway in the starlight

as summer’s leaves shed

their emerald hue


splattering crimson

across our craft

brittle and thin as our words:

How’s work? How’s your mom? Did you feed the dogs?


Frost snaked aft and fore

across line and deck,

fine-webbed, rudder

shuddering in the thickening bay,


as we rolled, crested, creaked,

rolled, listed, lashed –

All hands on deck!

crashing through the icy bay,


boatswain lost in the fray.

Listing, righting, drifting,

two battered mates

keening for shore,


knot frayed, straining,

each with a splintered oar,

as spring’s tender kiss

dripped through the cabin door.



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Marriage is Holy Ground


Although the following quote from Sacred Marriage (p. 49) by Gary Thomas speaks from a husband’s perspective, it is equally relevant to us as children of God, especially the final lines: God’s heart is melted and he is most tender and gracious to us when he encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it. Pausing here today in the midst of the busy and breathing deep these words.

Consider the virtues I have recommended as necessary to a deep relation with your wife: patience, listening, humility, service, and faithful, tender love. I hope it is not heretical for me to claim that in his dealings with us, God acts in many ways like a woman.

Women are capable of and sometimes commit magnificent acts that manifest incredible power and awaken in us men a profound awe, if not fear and trembling. Yet when they love, they love quietly; they speak, as it were, in whispers, and we have to listen carefully, attentively, to hear their words of love and to know them.

Isn’t God also this way?

Doesn’t he intervene in most of our lives in whispers, which we miss if we fail to recollect ourselves and pay careful attention – if we do not constantly strive to hear those whispers of divine love? The virtues necessary in truly loving a woman and having that love returned – the virtues of listening, patience, humility, service, and faithful love – are the very virtues necessary for us to love God and to feel his love returned. As we cannot lord it over women if we are to know them and grow intimate with them, so we cannot lord it over God if we are to know him and grow intimate with him.

We cannot successfully demand the love of a woman or the love of God. We have to wait. And just a as woman’s heart is melted when she encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it, so God’s heart is melted and he is most tender and gracious to us when he encounters in us weakness accompanied by our humble admission of it.

Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage, p. 49


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Ten Million Minutes

Love is patient
Love is kind
Love is twenty years of moments

Wrapped in promise and bright hope

Seven thousand days
Filled with laughter and little feet,
Five moves,
Two apartments, three houses,
And more work than I can remember

Through job loss
And relocation
Packing, painting,
Planting, tearing out,
Illness and accidents…

And eight pets that somehow
All arrived in pairs.

Love is day and night,
Bright and deep,
Shadow and light,

And never enough…

On it’s own

Only when it’s God’s —
Infused marrow and bone
Fiber and soul
Into every breath and heartbeat

Can Love survive
Our very human selves

Through hundreds of months and weeks,
Thousands of days,

Millions of minutes
Married to the man I love…

Learning to lean
On the One who is

word and breath
and blood and death
and life


Bleeding in and coursing through

Always protecting, hoping, trusting,
Always persevering

Through ten million minutes

Because only God’s love,
God’s way,
Never ever fails.

Happy, Happy 20th Anniversary, Tony!

I love you more today than I ever dreamed possible ten million minutes ago!

Twenty years ago we stood before family and friends and God, hand in hand, speaking these words to each other’s hearts, and I’d do it all again in a heartbeat!

Cindee’s Vows
Only once comes true love. Only once comes a feeling so strong and sure that you know it will last for a lifetime. Through you, true love has come to me.

Today I pledge to you my faithfulness, love and affection for all times – in joy and adversity, in laughter and pain.

I will nurture you when you need care. I will support you in new endeavors. I will believe in you when even you may doubt, and I will patiently listen to you when you need a friend.

I have chosen you as my partner for life, and now, before God, family and friends, I make that commitment permanent.

Tony’s Vows
I take your hand in mine. This symbolizes friendship and I promise now to be your true and faithful friend.

It symbolizes union and I promise to keep our union uppermost in my life.

It symbolizes help and caring. I promise to help you whenever and however you need me.

Most of all, it symbolizes love, and love is what I feel for you always, in good times and in bad.

I take your hand in mine – for this hour, for this day, for this lifetime.



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